Planning a Meaningful Memorial Service: 5 Things to Keep in Mind

A memorial service is a chance to celebrate a life — and no, it doesn’t have to feel like a gloomy formality. The best services are personal, respectful, and (when it feels right) even allow for moments of lightness. Here are five things to consider when planning a memorial that feels authentic.

1. Focus on the Person, Not the Formalities

Skip the generic scripts. A meaningful memorial reflects the person’s personality, quirks, and values — whether that’s a favourite poem, a beloved song, or simply the stories that made everyone laugh. It can be short, don’t feel pressured to create something that lasts for hours.

2. Involve Family and Friends

Inviting loved ones to share words, music, or readings can bring richness to the service. Just be prepared for a few surprises (and keep tissues handy).

3. Choose the Right Setting

Memorials don’t need to be confined to chapels. A garden, a beach, or a favourite local spot can feel far more fitting. The place should say something about the person being remembered.

4. Allow Room for Lightness

It’s natural to cry, but it’s also natural to laugh. A well-placed anecdote or a gentle smile shared through tears often brings comfort.

5. Keep It Genuine

People don’t remember every word — they remember the feeling. A service that is thoughtful, sincere, and human will stay with them long after the day.

Planning a memorial can feel overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to be. The goal isn’t perfection — it’s authenticity. A chance to honour someone properly, with sincerity, care, and yes, even the occasional smile.

If you’re arranging a memorial in Sydney and want a service that feels personal, respectful, and true to your loved one, I’d be honoured to help guide the way.