Do You Really Need Readings in a Wedding Ceremony?

Ah, the wedding reading. That moment when someone (usually a relative with a good speaking voice, or the one friend you feel obliged to include) stands up, clears their throat, and delivers a carefully chosen passage.

But let’s be honest: not every couple is convinced that readings add much to their ceremony. Some love the gravitas; others fear it might veer dangerously into high-school-drama-class territory.

So—do you really need readings in a wedding ceremony? Spoiler: no. But could they still work for you? Absolutely.

Why Couples Include Readings

1. Tradition, Tradition, Tradition
   Some families expect a reading—it feels like “the done thing.” If tradition matters to you (or your nan), this could be a simple nod to it.

2. Personalisation Without Pressure
   Readings can give a voice to your friends or family, without forcing them into writing their own speeches. It’s a way to include others without the unpredictability of open mic night.

3. A Breather in the Ceremony
   They offer a pause—sometimes practical (you need to collect yourselves), sometimes symbolic (let the words sink in).

Why Couples Skip Readings

1. Filler Content
   If you’re not in love with the chosen words, it can feel like padding. And let’s face it: nobody remembers a reading if it didn’t resonate.

2. Performance Anxiety (By Proxy)
   Nothing says “tense ceremony” like your cousin panicking through Shakespeare.

3. Keeping It Snappy
   Remember our argument for shorter ceremonies? If you’d rather skip the extras and head straight for the champagne, it’s perfectly valid.

Alternatives to Traditional Readings

• Share a story about how you met.

• Play a favourite song.

• Invite a guest to tell a quick anecdote.

• Skip it altogether (yes, really).

Readings aren’t a legal requirement; they’re a stylistic choice. If they add meaning, go for it. If they feel forced, leave them out. At the end of the day, your wedding ceremony is about you—not about ticking boxes.

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